Grilled Grandma: Nancy

How many children do you have?  3

How many grandchildren? What are their ages? 8 grandchildren; ages; 15, 15, 12, 11, 11, 11, 3 and 1. Yes, we have triplets, what a grand experience!

Any great grandchildren? no

What do your grandchildren call you? Nanny

After the initial elation, what was your first concern upon hearing you would soon be a grandmother? My initial elation at the sound of the word “Grandmother” was shock and, “holy cow am I that old?” Then total excitement and involvement in helping my daughter prepare for that first child. My concern was how would I relate to the child and what would I do? What kind of grandmother do I want to be? Answer fun and a teacher. Also, what would it be like to be that second woman in the child’s life and not the closest woman, the mom?

How often do you get to see your grandchildren? We live in the same community as all our grandchildren so we are fortunate to be able to watch them in all their various activities, at school, church or sporting events. Some of them are involved in acting and dance as well.

What is the best thing about being a grandma? The best thing happened just last night, we arrived at one of their homes when the door banged open and a little guy came running and jumping toward my arms. I’m just glad I can still lift him! Got a big long hug and the opportunity to tell him I love him. Another ‘best thing’ is to have a 15 year old ask if I want to help her with something, like redecorating her room or work on a sewing project. I’ve had the opportunity to teach some of them to sew.

What is the most challenging part of being a grandma? That would be in those times when I know they are struggling with something and being in the role of praying and thinking but not really involved in what is going on. Thankfully they have good parents.

What is your favorite thing to do with grandchildren who visit your house? Eat ice cream. ... should I say more?!  Ok, I do like to pass along something that I know that perhaps their parents don’t, such as a skill or interest.

What is your favorite thing to do when visiting grandchildren at their house? The best thing is to find a time and place to just chat, time with them equals value and listening to them equates putting value on them as a person. Honestly I think this is so important, just to hear them and let them talk.

How do you maintain the bond between yourself and your grandchildren between visits? That’s a challenge isn’t it? They are busy little people. I do hope they know that I’m interested in all they do and who they are.

What do you most want to pass along to your grandchildren? The one most important truth I desire to pass along is faith in God, without a doubt the single biggest desire I have is that the children will know their grandmother had a real, honest relationship with her heavenly Father.

What is one word you hope your grandkids think of when they think of you? Tenderness.

What is one thing you wish you had learned earlier as a grandparent? Time alone with them is highly important.. the communication and activities change when the parents are around. Grandma can not be a silly, for one thing.

What one bit of advice would you give a new grandma? Relax, have fun with them. Let them know you’ll always be honest with them and they can trust you.

Do you have a website or blog? What is it about?Sideline Grandma is about me following the kids in their activities but it’s about my life as well, whatever I’m doing or thinking about whether food or travels or our cottage life.