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    7 benefits of being a long-distance grandparent

    I am a long-distance grandma. Have been from the beginning of my grandma gig.

    The first few years I moaned and groaned ceaselessly about the miles separating me and my sweeties.

    I'm now nearly nine years into grandmahood. In that time I've thankfully learned there is indeed — unbelievable as I first thought it might be — a bright side to my grandbabies living so far from me.

    Following are a few such perks on which fellow long-distance grandparents just might agree.

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    Bathroom breaks at my house are a breeze.
    I never need straddle a step stool when using the toilet. Nor do I have to question who left the seat up as only two males share my home — and the clever canine one is not (yet) clever enough to not do his bathroom business outdoors.


    Empty nest free-for-all.
    Visits from grands require advance planning. Which leaves zero possibility my husband and I will be caught in the act — of eating ice cream for breakfast, that is. Or any other adult-only activity. 


    Saturdays belong to me.
    Youth soccer, basketball, birthday parties, swimming lessons and similarly time-consuming extracurricular events often take place on Saturdays. Events local grandparents often spend their Saturdays spectating. Not me! Mine, mine, mine... Saturdays are all mine to fill — or not fill — however I please.


    Netflix is all mine, too.
    When the streaming service asks "Who's watching?," there's only one profile to click — and no reason to enter the Kid Zone.


    Same goes for snacks.
    Never, ever do I have a hankering for a cheese stick only to find upon opening the fridge that a grandkid gobbled the last one. When I want a banana for my breakfast, no one else has nabbed it. (Cookies, well, they're another story, thanks to the cookie-gobbling grandpa-in-residence.) 


    I don't have to watch my language.
    I can say <cuss> and <cuss> and <cussing-cuss-cuss> all I want the majority of the time and not a single person within earshot will be corrupted or concerned with Gramma's potty mouth.


    Lying is acceptable, encouraged even.
    To oneself, at least. Because who would have the heart (or lack thereof) to call out a grandma who compiles lists of feeble reasons why she's just fine and dandy living miles and miles and miles — 815 to be exact — from her grands? Especially a grandma who, truth be told, would be quite content to spend Saturdays in the stands of sporting events of her grands.


    Today's question:

    What additional benefits might there be to being a long-distance grandma? (You lucky local grandmas are encouraged to pipe up about things you could do without.)

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    Reader Comments (6)

    What a great post!! I knew you were fibbing and don't blame you a bit! Being one of those lucky ones who is exactly 1.0 miles from her granddaughter - if she didn't spend so much time with us I wouldn't have an excuse for all the pizza, donuts and ice cream we consume! We just do it for Amara!

    February 15, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterGrandma Kc

    I see my grandson every week when I mind him for the day. He is almost 3 years old and I treasure the moments with him. My husbands grandchildren live about half an hour away but we don't see them often as their lives are so busy. I feel like a long distance grandparent with them but I make each birthday and Christmas special for them. I think one benefit of long distance grandparenting is that you are still special, a novelty if you will, because you don't see them as often. They tend to take your presence less for granted and both you and the grandchildren make sure it is quality time when you are together. I think there are pros and cons no matter where you live.

    February 15, 2017 | Unregistered Commentersue

    I agree with Sue. Now that Shylee lives with us I don't have that special connection with her I once had. I miss that, but I'm not complaining. I'm thankful for this season, because I don't know what the next one will be.

    February 15, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAnnette

    I have 4 grandchildren living nearby and 2 grandchildren living far away, almost 3,000 miles to be exact. I laughed at your seven points because each one definitely happens with the ones living nearby. But what I wouldn't give to have the other 2 nearby as well. I know that I've missed out on so much with them, but there isn't anything to be done about it, so I just treasure the time I do have with them!

    February 16, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterTeresa

    I am so old that I actually have a GREAT-grandson in the navy! He and all the younger great-grandchildren are hard to see often because their lives are so busy at other things. I do, however, get to see the youngest great-grandson fairly frequently and feel fortunate for that.
    All you younger grammas and grampas, do enjoy whartever time with grandkids you can're lucky for however much time that is, enjoy it!

    February 17, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAnn

    I would love to see mine 24/7, unfortunately that isn't possible. Too many miles in between us :( Thank you Lisa for sharing this post at the #WednesdayAIM #LinkUp #BlogParty. I shared it on my social media sites.

    February 17, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterGrammy Dee
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