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    20 ways grandparents can model a healthy relationship 

    My husband and I celebrated our thirty-second First Kiss Anniversary on Sunday. Yes, thirty-two years ago, PawDad and I smooched for the very first time, sealing forever our fate as parents, grandparents and more.

    We've always marked the day in a small but special way. This year it was simply skipping church to go out to breakfast together.

    In light of our celebration, I considered that one of the best things grandparents can do for grandchildren — and parents can do for their children, regardless of the child's age — is to model a positive personal relationship with their partners.

    How can grandmothers do that, though, when time with grandkids is typically focused on the kids?

    Here are 20 ways you can do both — be a fun and interesting grandma to the kids while nurturing your relationship with their grandpa. At the same time. Together.

    grandparents1. Make breakfast together — Grandma, Grandpa and the grandkids.

    2. Play an outdoor game that requires teams — Grandma and Grandpa on one team, grandkids on another.

    3. Play a board game using the same team approach.

    4. Take a family bike ride.

    5. Spread a blanket in the yard for some night-time stargazing as a family.

    6. Wear matching No. 1 Grandpa and No. 1 Grandma T-shirts on the same day. (Okay, I must admit that this one might make me — and Jim ... and our adult kids — gag. But some grandparents do get into this. Which is cute.)

    7. Hold hands while taking a walk around the block — or through the mall — with the grandkids.

    8. Play Wii games together.

    grandsons9. Go ice skating.

    10. Or roller skating.

    11. Have a dance party in the living room, playing songs you enjoyed when first dating. Don't hold back on showing the kids your best dance moves.

    12. Create a video together to email or text to long-distance grandchildren.

    13. Roast marshmallows by the outdoor fire pit or indoor fireplace.

    14. Perform a musical number for the kids, playing instruments, singing or both. Kids love performing for Grandma and Grandpa; this gives them a turn at being in the audience.

    15. Take a break from pushing swings and such at the park to hang out together on a blanket while the kids play.

    grandparenting16. Share photo albums from the early years.

    17. Better yet, share your wedding album.

    18. And if it's your thing, take the kids to church with you…and sit by Grandpa.

    19. Have a movie night featuring Grandma and Grandpa’s favorite movie — and your favorite movie snacks.

    20. Create a fort for the grandkids then surprise them when they arrive.

    Today's question:

    What memories do you have of your grandparents expressing love for each other?

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    Reader Comments (9)

    Congrats on your first kiss anniversary!!

    My Grandparents weren't very demonstrative, but somehow all the Grandkids knew there was love in the house. Perhaps mutual respect and 'doing for' each other?

    Like your awesome list. Unfortunately, there's no way we can sit next to each other in church. Have to plop Granddaughter between us for... ahem...'positive reinforcement of proper church behavior' LOL

    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterNonnieKelly

    There was never any consideration shown between my maternal grandparents when I was growing up (my paternal grandparents had passed away before I was born); maybe that's what has been wrong with me all my life.

    Your list sounds like fun stuff, tho'.

    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterAnn

    What fun ideas. Neither my parents nor grandparents were demonstrative, but, we could tell they loved each other. My Mom, for instance, never contradicted my Dad if he was talking about something we knew she disagreed with. She let him have the stage, knowing that other times, she would have the stage.

    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterCarol Covin

    Great suggestions! You're so right how we're so focused on the grkids! Showed this to Grandpa....and we realized this is exactly why we're so lovey-dovey in our old age (46 years)......our parents and families were always demonstrative and playful! My Dad wrote poems to my Mom for her Birthday and other occasions!
    Thanks, lisa....going to do a better job!


    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterJoan Stommen

    These are such sweet photos of you and Jim with your grandboys, Lisa! Happy 32 "First Kiss' anniversary! My husband and i celebrate the date we meet also --this year he was in NYC for it and i was all alone which was a!

    I only had two grandmothers in my life. Sadly both my grandfathers died when my parents were very young--my dad was three when his dad died and my mom was only three months old. My dad's Mom lived with us a few years but she passed away before I was four. I do remember loving her very much. My Mom's mother lived a few states away and we only got to see her for one week a summer. She did not speak English so we couldn't communicate with her that well, but I know she loved us and I loved her. She also came to live with us a couple years before she passed away.

    My husband and I will be the only grandparents for our grand daughter as my son-in-law's parents ahve both passed away. I hope we can be the best ones she could hope for!

    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterPat

    Love your list Lisa.

    Unfortunately I only knew my maternal grandmother, the others had passed away.

    I am hoping that Lucy & Bella will come to understand that even if Norman & I have a disagreement, it doesn't end a relationship. We are trying to be good role models to both of them, hopefully they will grow into beautiful well rounded young women.

    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterSally Kabak

    I don't remember my own grandparents ever showing any kind of affection for one another. My
    Daddy, who sadly is now gone, was very affectionate, playful and loving to my Mom and very involved with his grandkids. Rich is very much like him and I am so glad! I am sure Amara knows how much we like each other. We talk about it often enough!

    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterGrandma Kc

    I have no doubt that all of you here are fantastic grandparents, with grandchildren who are ever thankful you're in their lives.

    Considering the number of you who mentioned your grandparents were gone at an early age, I'm quite lucky to have known — for many years — my paternal grandparents and my maternal grandmother, even if we weren't really all that close.

    Cheers, grandmas! Thank you for your comments!

    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterLisa @ Grandma's Briefs

    I agree that couples should show affection (tastefully) in front of children and ♥ your suggestions- gonna try some out as soon as Sweetie and I get married and officially become Grandma & Grandpa. Gracias y BB2U

    March 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterBohemian Babushka
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