Friday
Oct052012
Water under the bridge
Friday, October 5, 2012 For reasons unclear, reasons never honestly shared with me, my younger brother hasn't spoken to me in more than eight years.
This past Wednesday, thanks to my mom and my sister—my brother's twin—my brother and I had no choice but to have lunch together.
Which turned out to be a good thing.
Sometimes the reasons people do the things they do make no sense.
And sometimes, after a while, those reasons no longer matter.
Perhaps what does matter is forgiveness.
And watching the water continue on its course beneath the bridge.
Today's fill-in-the-blank:
Though we've not spoken in years, I'd love to reconnect with _____________.
Reader Comments (15)
How wonderful to have a special person back in your life!
I'd love to reconnect with a close friend from junior high. Fortunately, no water under the bridge or animosity...we just drifted apart as we entered adulthood and life's journey took us down separate paths.
One of my brothers hasn't spoken to me in maybe 3 years. Right now I'm pretty neutral about it but I think it's wonderful that you've reconnected. There are people from my past I would love to catch up with--it's often a matter of reaching out. Maybe it's time!
one of my daughters. It hasn't been years but it's always too long. And it's always me reaching out. And I'm never sure why she feels at odds with me. And even though we "connect" - we don't really connect. One time we went almost 2 years without speaking. Now I never let too much time go by. Even if my efforts are reciprocated - I keep extending my hand and my texts and my photos and my love.
I'm so happy you and your brother crossed that bridge and let the water flow again. What a balm.
I'd so love to reconnect with a friend from High School(we graduated in '66') I last saw him in the mid 70's and can't seem to locate him ... No harsh words or anything, just living life I guess... I miss him....
Lisa, this brought very happy tears to my eyes. So happy to hear you and your brother are communicating again. Life is too short to worry about that water under the bridge.
Hugggs!
I'd love to reconnect with a close friend from high school; time, distance, and life just separated us. I think about her frequently and would like to know that she's doing well.
So happy for you and your brother.
I would like to connect with a three of my high school girlfriends from Hawaii (we've been out of high school for 40 yrs now). We send Christmas cards with pictures to each other every year but would really like to meet in person and talk story!
I was estranged from my sister for 20 years. She had a serious dependency & I couldn't stand it in my life after my parents passed away. I didn't realize that she should/could have been medicated.
We started by writing to each other which led to a reconciliation and visits. I'll never be very close to her because she is so eccentric, but she does depend on me to keep her up-beat. We are 70+ and I am so thankful to have her back in my life, and I realize that I am not a forgiving person. I'll work on that!
Lisa, so happy for you. What a wonderful gift in your life. I have had people I no longer speak to but the truth is I can no longer remember why. The answer was probably that it wasn't very important. Thanks for sharing this with the rest of us, you have me thinking.
I'm glad your mother and sister could get you and your brother together. Time and distance is sometimes necessary for healing and I'm happy it was enough for the two of you.
How wonderful for you to have your brother back in your life. So thrilled for you.
I would dearly love my daughter to be back in my life. She has now moved back to Wellington & even though I saw her briefly on Monday she still wants nothing to do with me, Sad that she rejected the help that was offered to turn her life around.
Lisa, I am so glad that this reconciliation happened for you!
It would sure be fun for me to see and reconnect with friends from the past from whom I drifted away because of life's circumstances (moving away, getting married, changing jobs, graduating, etc.). But I think that is what heaven is for!
I am glad you were able to reconnect and make it work. I have my fingers crossed for all of you.
I'm happy for you, but, for me, I can't really think of anyone with whom I've lost touch and want to reconnect. There are, of course, relationships that have faded away or been damaged, but I don't want them back. They dissolved for good reasons.
But for you, I am very happy.
good for you!