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    Apr282011

    Old enough to be a grandma

    I often come across women who eschew being called "Grandma." As they put it, they're "not old enough to be a grandma," the distaste heavy on their lips, on their words as they offer the disclaimer accompanying the label.

    Well, I am old enough to be a grandma, and it doesn't bother me one bit. Having accumulated the number of years necessary to have borne children who in turn grow, mature and bear children of their own comes with many perks, many privileges, many insights younger women may not be privy to.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I no longer feel it's necessary to sort out my past for the sake of my future. What's done is done, what will be will be. I'm living my future ... and it's far better than I once expected.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I can delight in my daughters as adults, not just worry about them as children. 

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I know it can happen to me. Invincibility is an illusion of youth; reality rings harder and louder as you age. Which means I always wear my seat belt, take vitamins, look both ways. And I savor the moments granted by my precautionary measures.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I trust my gut instinct more. I finally realize it's right more often than not.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I more deeply appreciate and more thoroughly understand the importance of "I'm sorry." And "thank you."

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I find contentment more often in the small things, have stopped pining for the big things. For the most part.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I no longer stifle my feelings simply to keep others comfortable.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I find truth — sometimes ugly, sometimes freeing — in discomfort. Mine and that of others.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I forfeit the beauty competition, having accepted that I will never again look like I did at 18 nor will I ever look like a moneyed celebrity. (One of those freeing truths mentioned above.)

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I put more effort into accepting others for who they are, less effort in trying to make them who I want them to be.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I like my siblings more than I used to.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I say "I love you" more often ... without hesitation or embarrassment.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I am a grandma. I'm proud to say so, proud to be so.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I feel thoroughly, thankfully blessed and will gladly take the title — and the years — over the alternative.

    Today's question:

    Fill in the blanks: Now that I'm old enough to _______, I ___________.

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    All of those are good and I feel them, too.
    I'll add... Now that etc etc. I can be my eccentric self without caring what anyone else might think. Not that it stopped me before.

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJohn Lunn

    Now that I'm a grandmother, I find my grandmaternal instincts expand to encompass all the young ones in my path. They are all our next, precious generation.
    Now that I'm a grandmother, I say "good job" all the time, to everybody.

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterGrandmother

    I love this one:
    "Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I can delight in my daughters as adults, not just worry about them as children." For me, just substitute daughters with sons. Couldn't have said this better myself.
    Lovely

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTerri

    Now that I'm old enough to be a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother, I just sit back and watch how much better the younger generations are doing everything than I did.

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAnn

    Lisa, I love this post. I wish I had thought of it myself.

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I know bulls*t when I see it and I'm not afraid to call it what it is.

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterGrams

    Now that I am old enough to be a Grandmother -- I refuse to be old!

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterGrandma Kc

    Now that I'm old enough to know better, I still don't. ;0)

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterPammeey

    Now that I'm old enough to be a Nanny, not Nana either by the way. For some reason people want me to change what my grands call me too to suit what they think is appropriate. Loved the post! Some very wise thoughts here.

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAngela

    I love your post today and I agree with all of them.

    Now that I am old enough to be semi-retired, I am loving the time with my family and the opportunity to do whatever I want, whenever I want.

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDebbie E.

    What a wonderful post! I agree with you!

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKathy

    There were so many 'now that I'm ___' that I read and I thought- YES! I've figured that out. A lot of them I just WANT to figure out, but somethings only come with time. So even though I'm getting wrinkles (not many- but still WRINKLES), I know I'm learning and growing.

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSuzRocks

    Now that I have a knee injury, I want to exercise!! Go figure!

    April 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAnnette

    I vividly remember, on finding out I was pregnant, calling my grandmother who was such a huge part of my life and asking her how she felt about being a great grandmother--she paused, giggled and said, "Well, I guess that won't make me one bit older!"

    April 29, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSuzie

    now that I'm old enough to be a grandma--I'm a lot more patient than I used to be.

    April 29, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterkaye

    Love the post!! and the comments!
    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandparent, I I'm aware of another being looking up to me for guidance and love...I cherish each moment we share whenever I can visit and each conversation on the phone.

    May 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNilda

    First of all congratulations on being recognized on BlogHer. I loved your list and could only add:

    Now that I'm old enough to be a grandmother, I have learned that I do not need to be in control. Because my children have been quick learners, they are taking care of business without me supervising. I love that.

    Be well.

    Barbara

    May 13, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterb

    I could hug you. Come here Grandma.

    Thank you so much for this post.
    Since becoming a grandma at the ripe old age of 46, I totally sank into the role with absolute delight.
    Call me Nana? No way! It's Grandma. I'm not ashamed of the title, in fact I'm proud.

    Marvellous post. I hope you don't mind my linking to your post .

    July 6, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDiane

    Raising a grandchild, I am more confident of who I am and so proud of what I am doing. The wisdom that comes with being older should never be under estimated.

    July 13, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSally Kabak

    Love your list! Now that I'm old enough to be a grandma, I'm glad the parents are in charge!

    July 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCarol Covin

    Eve rything you have said is so true. Now that I'm a new gran of 8wks I just feel so lucky and special.

    October 27, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAnne Mackle

    Love your postings.
    SO nice to find a blogger over 45 !
    I am a gram who is always hearing. "you're not old enough to be a grandmother !"
    I just smile.. & yea.. I am .. I had my daughter young.. but she waited until she was 23..

    Nothing finer..

    Lisa

    March 21, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterlisa

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