As part of the SV Moms Group, I get to participate in a monthly book club. The book for the May club is "The Body Scoop for Girls: A Straight-Talk Guide to a Healthy, Beautiful You" by ob-gyn Jennifer Ashton. Now, another thing you all may know is that I no longer have daughters in the house to whom I should be imparting sage advice about sex and such. Consider my participation and reading of the book as a half-cussed attempt at the previously mentioned failure analysis. I was curious about what I may have failed to tell my daughters and figured there might still be time to impart some of the important stuff.
You see, I never had "the talk" with the girls. Not because I was scared to mention what some moms consider unmentionable, but because we talked about sex all the time. I don't mean we talked graphically about sex all the time, but starting when the girls were little, they were encouraged to ask me whatever, whenever. So I -- and I'm sure, they -- cannot recall one specific "birds-and-the-bees" talk. To be honest, I don't even know how the fabled birds-and-bees talk goes! So I just answered their questions as they came. And threw them period parties when that came. Oh, and I bought them "Just For Me" by Donna Ternes Wanner (and took them to Barnes & Noble to get the author's autograph!) to help spark any questions they may not have considered.
But I figured I could still use a little more evidence I didn't do everything right brushing up on the basics, so I signed up to receive, free from the publisher, "The Body Scoop for Girls." It came, I flipped through it, and I set it aside to peruse more thoroughly just before my book club post was due.
Well, this is my book club post. Funny thing is that as I sat down at my desk to go through the book -- and decide whether to write about the chapter on periods (and our good ol' family period parties) or the chapter on sex, in which the author warns girls to never, ever tell their boyfriends they're on the pill because it'll keep the guy from wearing a condom -- my e-mail notification dinged.
As any schmuck who says she works from home freelance writer knows, the siren song of the inbox is impossible to ignore. So I opened my e-mail and found an update on the latest talks on TED.com. One of the talks was plugged as: "Despite her best efforts, Julia Sweeney is forced to tell a little white lie when her 8-year-old begins learning about frog reproduction."
Hmmm. I like Julia Sweeney; she makes me smile. And it seemed her talk may be relevant to the book I was perusing, preparing to write about. So I clicked.
And what to my wondering eyes should appear but Ms. Sweeney's description of having "the talk" with her daughter! Take a look:
THAT is really all a kid needs to know. Possibly even more than a kid needs to know!
So I put down "The Body Scoop for Girls" and figured I did okay with the girls. They surely know enough, I think, especially since they're now women ... and because I'm, ahem, a grandma. But if they don't think so, if they seek additional insight on how their bodies work, they know just where to go for more info.
And who to call if they want to borrow my copy of "Straight-Talk Guide to a Healthy, Beautiful You."
How did THE TALK go for you, as either the recipient or the provider of the facts of life?