How many children do you have? I have two children and two step-children.
How many grandchildren? What are their ages? 5 grandchildren ages, 5, 4, 3, 1, and 2 weeks.
Any great grandchildren? No.
What do your grandchildren call you? They call me Grandma or Grandma Cynthia
After the initial elation, what was your first concern upon hearing you would soon be a grandmother? I don’t remember having any concerns about being a grandma. I was just thrilled and excited.
How often do you get to see your grandchildren? The 5 and 1 year olds live near us and we attend church together, so I get to see them a couple times a week. The 3 year old and her brand new sister live about 90 minutes away, so we see them at least once a month. Our little 4 year old just moved from New Jersey to Georgia. We get to see her about once a year. There have been a couple years we’ve gotten to see her twice in the same year. I sure wish they could move closer.
What is the best thing about being a grandma? It’s hard to explain why being a grandma is so great. I suppose the best part is that you’re much calmer than you were with your own. Your perspective is different, and you don’t have the ultimate responsibility for them. It’s easy to just relax and enjoy them.
What is the most challenging part of being a grandma? The most challenging part is letting the parents be the parents when you disagree with what they’re doing. For the most part, our kids are great parents which makes it easier to keep my mouth shut when I do disagree with them.
Describe a recent time that one (or more) of your grandchildren made you laugh out loud. Wow! It’s hard to pick one time out. These kids make me laugh all the time. The 5 year old says the most outrageous things, and the one year old is just too cute! The 3 year old is a handful of mischief. When we visited the 3 year old last week, I brought her a little craft kit for making valentines. She wanted me to sit down and make them with her right away. I told her that we needed glue and I hadn’t brought any with me. She looked thoughtful for a moment and said, “I tink so,” and disappeared into her room. Sure enough she came out with a little glue stick, and we made valentines.
What is your favorite thing to do with grandchildren who visit your house? Truthfully, I like to just watch them play. I’ve got lots of toys, so Grandma’s house is always fun. Sometimes we go to the park. I talk to them while they’re playing, and they tell me what they’re doing. The Princess likes to come over for a pajama party, which means popcorn and a movie. Now that they’re getting bigger, I’m looking for craft ideas we can do together.
What is your favorite thing to do when visiting grandchildren at their house? Ha! Same thing, except they play with their own toys.
How do you maintain the bond between yourself and your grandchildren between visits? We send and receive pictures. Thank goodness for the Internet. We keep in touch on Facebook, and occasionally Skype.
What do you most want to pass along to your grandchildren? I hope to pass on what I passed on to my own children, a love for God and a desire to do what’s right. I want to help them develop a sense of security so that they know they can aspire to great things and they’ll always have someone to catch them if they fall.
What is one word you hope your grandkids think of when they think of you? LOVE!
What is one thing you wish you had learned earlier as a grandparent? I really don’t have an answer for this. My mom is a wonderful grandmother, and I’ve patterned myself after her.
What one bit of advice would you give a new grandma? Just let them know you love them however you choose to show it. Rest assured that they will naturally love you too.
Do you have a website or blog? What is it about? My blog is Commonplace Crazy. I write about my life, my grandchildren, and good grammar.
This is an archived version of Cynthia's Grilled Grandma feature. See her original grilling—including reader comments—by clicking HERE.